The topic came up at work the other day: Would you marry someone you haven't lived with?
I wasn't surprised by the number of people that answered no, but imo I don't see the connection.
"If you can't live together, you have no business getting married." I absolutely agree. If you can't live together, you really shouldn't be getting married -- but do you really need a trial run before you realize that?
If you're ready to marry someone, you should be willing to change your habits to accommodate your partner, and you should expect the same from him/her. I don't really believe in "trial marriages," as it was coined.
That being said, I have no problem with couples moving in together before they get married -- I'm just sayin' I don't think it's a necessary pre-step to marriage.
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It's kinda late for me to reply, but I will anyway.
ReplyDeleteI absolutely agree with you that a "trial marriage" isn't necessary. It's not something that I plan on doing whenever I get to that point either. Ironically, despite the number of couples that do this, the divorce rate is still pretty high. You would think that couples that have lived together prior to marriage would have seen the majority of the imminent problems already.